How to come to change? It can't go on like this anymore!

Blinding whiteness...purity...snow...everything around is white - white...and only a small path is visible...I walk along it...in echoing silence, snowflakes creak underfoot, their sound is clear and bright. It does not violate the harmony of silence, but makes it richer, sounding with harmonious chords of high sounds of snowflakes, gently moaning under the weight of my body.

In the distance, white rectangles are visible, standing perpendicular to the ground ... these are doors, like identical pictures, of such a white life. They are scattered across the horizon, a little further ... a little closer.

I gradually approach them. “There is nothing more mysterious than a closed door!” -I understand at this moment... What is behind them... is it worth opening?... is it necessary?... how everything can change in an instant...???

Here I am next to them... The decision has been made!! Choice made!!!

… OPEN… echoes all over the world… OPEN… the Soul calls… OPEN… my space whispers to me…

And I, with a gentle movement of my hand, push one of the doors. It slowly begins to open, and I see a thin strip of grayish haze, foggy and faded ... I open it wider and go in ...

Hello, my past life, hello, my lived years!

Oh, what a tangle of different feelings envelops me! Resentment, tears, betrayal, envy ... inability to cope with the situation ... anxiety ... fear of loss ... I ... sacrificially standing with outstretched hand, waiting for handouts ... It's good that this is all in the past !!!

I'm relieved to close this door behind me!!! Tight!!! I won't come back here!!!

I hang a sign "LIVED!" on it, and happily go towards the new door!

Here, with amazing carved decorations, as if, asks to open it ...

Well, I'm not resisting... I'll come...

I find myself in a bluish-pink cloud, it is a fairly dense substance, pleasant to the touch, warm and soft, reminiscent of velvet with an amazing smell of the first lilies of the valley ... I fell into myself ... There is a slight mess here ... it's time to reconsider, update everything, clean, breathe new strength, and cleaning should not be cosmetic, but deep, general, so that everything is new.

I'm dusting Knowledge, removing rust from Inspiration. It is especially difficult to purify Love, it is simply overwhelmed with Gentleness, Patience, Illusion of Love, Compliance, Peacefulness.

All this is wonderful, but they cannot replace True Love ... Here it is ... the computer of my Self!

It's time to change your hard drive!!

I set it to Reset and exit quietly.

I'll be back here! Not once!!!!

Now the night has passed...and I haven't had time to enter many doors yet!!!! Well, that's still ahead!!!!!

New opportunities and real attempts to change something sometimes come as a necessity: "it can't go on like this anymore"!

If you find yourself at this crossroads, and the old rules do not work for you, the frame of life is crumbling before your eyes, most likely, the Time for drastic Changes has come for you. Where are your thoughts directed? Despair? Confusion? Hopelessness?

Or… the ability to look into your situations as a Mirror and courageously accept the ANSWERS that needs to be changed, that doesn't work the way it used to anymore?

What depends only on me? What exactly can I begin to change myself, removing grievances and claims? How to stop the vicious cycle of recurring problems?

The New Year is a great occasion to reconsider your previous guidelines and give up on your own, voluntarily, those qualities and habits that lead to and lead to destruction.

Perhaps the most subtle and therefore enduring SOURCE of all psychological problems is the inertia of our thinking. That's what the trick turns out to be: "I sincerely believe in what brings me a lot", and I don’t believe in the power of change at all ...

How doomed this story sounds. To be forever attached to those rules and attitudes, false assessments that destroy our relationships, our spiritual sphere. Fears arise: “loss of calm”, “force yourself to endure and keep silent about what brings pain”, “to be afraid of being guilty”, “unloved…” - this is the manifestation of the Force of Inertia.

People lose confidence, sink into a protective layer of reactions, living every day in the same situation and not making any decisions. They endure, adjust, keep silent, accumulate, move away, ....then they fight, blaming each other, hurt, but do not change anything! “I don’t believe” is the most convenient answer so that changes do not happen!

The selfishness of adults becomes a powerful force of destruction, both in close relationships and in the person himself, destroying his former level of stability.

What destroys selfishness?

First of all, the relationships themselves. They destroy our nervous system. They destroy the atmosphere in which people live and regularly feed each other with their grievances. Selfishness, strengthened in fierce battles, makes it unbearable!

Egoism destroys the rhythm of natural life, creates the illusion of the impossibility of being together and treating each other with kindness. Living, fully developed (by social standards) people are helpless and unable to cooperate in simple everyday matters. The ego provokes to defend only its own truth, which turns into a weapon against a loved one. It turns out a strange story: a man and a woman unite in order to torment each other and make life together unbearable.

It's funny to hear such a conclusion after many years of living together: I endured / endured so much, I'm tired of it, I don't believe it, .... let's part!

Inertness is the best medium for expressing the vitality of the human Ego!

New Year's parable:

Two snowflakes

It was snowing. In winter this is a common thing. The weather was calm, and large fluffy snowflakes slowly circled in a bizarre dance, slowly approaching the ground.

Two snowflakes flying side by side decided to start a conversation. Afraid of losing each other, they join hands, and one of them cheerfully says:

- How good it is to fly, enjoy the flight!

- We are not flying, we are just falling, - the second one answered sadly.

- Soon we will meet the ground and turn into a white fluffy blanket!

- No, we are flying towards death, and on the ground they will simply trample us.

- We will become streams and rush to the sea. We will live forever! said the first.

- No, we will melt and disappear forever, - the second objected to her.

They finished their conversation and unclenched their hands.

And each of them flew towards the fate that she chose for herself.

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Overcoming the force of inertia is possible if you are willing to change your thinking.

1. I stop looking for reasons in my partner and in external circumstances.

2. I look honestly at my outdated rules and habit of thinking - "how it should be right", that is, impersonally. I determine what is right NOW for me and align it with my purpose.

3. I ask myself specific questions (restore constructive thinking):

- what needs to be changed (in myself)?

- what am I willing to voluntarily change in myself?

- what new proposals and solutions will take me out of the stagnation - "as it was before"?

- how can I influence the situation in a different way so that the result changes for the better?

4. I acknowledge my fears and am ready to overcome them by offering myself new choices.

5. I stop waiting for the “bad” to resolve itself or the partner to change, and it will become easier for me myself. I myself go to "upgrade", taking successive steps.

6. I listen carefully to what a close person told me (in the form of claims, accusations, complaints), and I find a beautiful solution, removing the severity of the problem. I admit that I am not ready to be in the role of a tormentor or a victim, I am getting out of the old scenario of mutual suffering.

7. I am ready to let go of the old accumulated experience, to re-evaluate, to choose the best reaction. I am ready to formulate new values that unite us into a single whole.

8. My choices are no longer based on primitive ego defenses; I am aware of the dividing barrier that the ego has built, and I pass through it without any obstacles. There are no more threats for me if my mind gives adequate assessments of what is happening and reminds me of the goal - “to live in harmony with myself and with my loved one.”

9. I carefully monitor the provocations of the Ego and do not succumb to them. A new reaction, better than the previous one, brings me out of stagnation and inertia.

10. I recognize that the Time of Change has come for me, and I am ready / you courageously accept this challenge.

11. I will always find the help and support I need, but I take full responsibility for my changes.

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Many people, sooner or later, come to this place of change. They find themselves at the Crossroads when new choices, new decisions, changed beliefs, rules and attitudes allow them to break free from the old pattern of suffering.

From discussions on this topic:

“Our old settings are still there; we remember them well, but

choose to try another ".

- OLD SETTINGS are "erased" when moving to another level of consciousness. The old VALUE JUDGMENTS, old values, beliefs (....) are also erased - everything that I have listed refers to the CONTENT of the former worldview that replaces the TRUE VISION (internal, what we feel) .

A person sees by what HE knows, what is included in his information field - Co-Knowledge.

Limited by previous settings, CONSCIOUSNESS cannot, by definition, enter a larger space of Cognition ... like a child placed in a sandbox and forbidden to cross the established boundaries.

Psychological Attitudes are responsible for various actions (external and internal). This is a mechanism for regulating actions, elections, the direction of movement ..., i.e. A "team" that allows you to cross or flirt with obsolete boundaries (manipulate within yourself) by playing an update.

The old content and setting of psychological mechanisms must change (this is an old program that has a brake and its own fixed boundaries)!!!

Man is a dynamic system, that is, developing. If situations show that it is not possible to save vital things, then it's time for a change.

Outdated norms, rules, beliefs....turn into CLUTCHES, "hooks holding the Network" (consciousness) in a static position.

HOW A PERSON THINKS THAT IS LIVES!

What is this about?

Internal information governs life and organizes quality.

And if we take into account the sad fact that 95% of the “thoughts” of a modern person are protective primitive reactions, social attitudes and a standard set of ideas (which determines the average statistical norm), then I would say that IMMEDIATELY you need to clear EVERYTHING from your consciousness THIS SET))))

…closing the Zone of Access to the Inner World, to one's individuality, to one's Place of Power and the possibility of understanding/feeling a loved one.

Otherwise, a person may fall into the ILLUSION OF CHANGE, having learned new beautiful words that fit into old mechanisms: words are New, but do not possess the Force of change.

That's when false reference points come: POSITIVE EMOTIONAL COLOR is perceived as the Energies of Love, Penetration, Discrimination, Creation, ... which are not there.)))

If you changed the words, but left the habits in the same place, you created another illusion. If the agreements are violated, it means that you want to make a better impression, but are not ready to overcome the old “programs” in yourself.

It's time for us to begin to Distinguish it ourselves. To get a different experience - you need to "restart your computer", install a new version, more modern, and be sure - "antivirus program"!

Everything that is not in a state of goodness, acceptance, forgiveness, joy and love will be destroyed.

It remains to draw the right conclusions for yourself, which you may not have visited before.

Try to overcome the barriers of fear to change itself.

This is the first step towards finding inner freedom. Then, perhaps, the relationship with a loved one will change, giving both of you joy, security and well-being.

Dear friends, remember that not all relationships need to be restored. If your partner is also ready for change, you have a great chance. To dance, you need the consent of two. If you manage to remove the barriers between each other, then you will hear a beautiful melody of love ... for two voices!

With good wishes, to each of us: gaining wisdom, we find ourselves!